Thank you Amy! I listened to your essay about being in the MRI machine and it resonated. I don't feel like enough, I don't feel like much of anything lately. I'm frozen, unable to make decisions about anything. Happy belated birthday, sending hugs from NYC. XO 🥰❤️
Thank you Amy for that witnessing and i wish for you to reclaim your sense of enoughness soon because you are SO more than enough from my vantage point. You are so brave and honest and a light for so many people struggling with grief. And I am so delighted with the news that your book will be published. I hope the lovely warmth of spring will help you thaw. Perhaps you are not meant to make any decisions right now. The body knows more than we do, often. That’s what I am learning.
Amy, I’m so proud of you. Keep up the great work. Someday I’ll tell my sexual revolution story. Maybe. Probably. Maybe. I’m still trying to figure out why Barbie went to a gynecologist.
Excellent post Amy. You have your own unique voice, experience, and I am glad you shared it.
I worked in movie theaters when Thelma and Louise was being shown to audiences. I was told, and since I worked in the box office I cannot verify, but the test showings of the film had an original ending where the car landed on the canyon floor and they drove off —which was apparently not satisfactory to audiences. I mean, setting aside the physics question of the alternate ending, I think you may have hit the nail on the head as to the real reason for the chosen ending.
I'd heard about the alternate ending of Thelma and Louise but I hadn't made the connection until I started to think about all these stories of midlife women reclaiming their sexuality and then dying or losing everything. In my personal experience it worked the other way around - my husband died and then I went a little crazy.
How have you been doing? I know it's really moment by moment some days, weeks even months. I've been better, but hopefully I'll snap out of my inertia soon. I'm not sure if I'm supposed to wish you a happy Easter, but I will if that's cool. 🥰
Great piece! 😍 Some thoughts: 1. This is partly why I am single - which feels like a happier ending (or current state) than that of many women I know. 2. I wrote the ending of my novel to intentionally NOT be either "happily ever after with a man" or "woman dies at the end." We'll see how it does. 3. I am going to further complicate things in the sequel, exploring additional possibilities for happiness that push against the norms.
I loved the ending Bonnie and I can't wait for the sequel. I wish I had one for my memoir, but I just feel really stuck right now. Summer is coming and I have no plans and I can't decide on anything. I know I just have to sit in this discomfort, but it doesn't feel good. XO 🥰❤️
Men in power who feel the need to manipulate are just confession how pathetic and powerless they are. I hate to disappoint anyone, but I’ve found that younger men who just want to be with you and not control you or make a product out of you f—k and love better and more maturely than the men who likely abandoned them and their moms anyway. The only sex that would be death IMO is the sad offerings of the late Boomers and Gen Xers I’ve dated. I have yet to be impressed and a 30 YO from Italy has me dead to rights sure that ALL American men are toast by comparison. Well, perhaps it’s not ALL men. Their adult sons have clearly learned some things from some hella good foundations (likely provided by a Gen X mother whose Gen X “father” is now the older dude frustrated AF because of ED and a lack of ability to get “one sex” because he has the personality of plastic when it comes down to it. Sorry to be savage, but this just reminds me of a “type” who I have no obligation to be anything but real with. 💅
But this was an interesting piece and I was actually writing early this morning about exactly why women like me shed dead weight. Like, I lost 220 lbs of toxic heft on 5/5 last year and have had more fun, better sex, and a happier life ever since! I should tell that story. Losing excess weight is so empowering. I can see why women are dropping needless pounds and are realizing how happy they can really be.
I hear you Amy, and yet I've been so lonely lately. I know that's infinitely better than being with some jerk. This too shall pass, but when I'm in this depressed state it's hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. People don't talk about the loneliness long after their person dies. I want so badly to keep moving forward, but I am really stuck right now. Sending you a hug from NYC. 🥰❤️
Great essay, Amy.
Thank you dear Susan! XO ❤️🥰
I am so glad you added your perspective to this conversation Amy. It’s important. And I appreciated your insights.
Thank you Amy! I listened to your essay about being in the MRI machine and it resonated. I don't feel like enough, I don't feel like much of anything lately. I'm frozen, unable to make decisions about anything. Happy belated birthday, sending hugs from NYC. XO 🥰❤️
Thank you Amy for that witnessing and i wish for you to reclaim your sense of enoughness soon because you are SO more than enough from my vantage point. You are so brave and honest and a light for so many people struggling with grief. And I am so delighted with the news that your book will be published. I hope the lovely warmth of spring will help you thaw. Perhaps you are not meant to make any decisions right now. The body knows more than we do, often. That’s what I am learning.
Yes 🙏 Rewriting the script is a critical part of contributing to a better world
Hard truth. Thanks for concisely and completely exposing it.
Amy, I’m so proud of you. Keep up the great work. Someday I’ll tell my sexual revolution story. Maybe. Probably. Maybe. I’m still trying to figure out why Barbie went to a gynecologist.
Aww, thank you so much Sharon! I needed something to put a smile on my face and you just did 🥰.
Excellent post Amy. You have your own unique voice, experience, and I am glad you shared it.
I worked in movie theaters when Thelma and Louise was being shown to audiences. I was told, and since I worked in the box office I cannot verify, but the test showings of the film had an original ending where the car landed on the canyon floor and they drove off —which was apparently not satisfactory to audiences. I mean, setting aside the physics question of the alternate ending, I think you may have hit the nail on the head as to the real reason for the chosen ending.
I'd heard about the alternate ending of Thelma and Louise but I hadn't made the connection until I started to think about all these stories of midlife women reclaiming their sexuality and then dying or losing everything. In my personal experience it worked the other way around - my husband died and then I went a little crazy.
How have you been doing? I know it's really moment by moment some days, weeks even months. I've been better, but hopefully I'll snap out of my inertia soon. I'm not sure if I'm supposed to wish you a happy Easter, but I will if that's cool. 🥰
Great piece! 😍 Some thoughts: 1. This is partly why I am single - which feels like a happier ending (or current state) than that of many women I know. 2. I wrote the ending of my novel to intentionally NOT be either "happily ever after with a man" or "woman dies at the end." We'll see how it does. 3. I am going to further complicate things in the sequel, exploring additional possibilities for happiness that push against the norms.
I loved the ending Bonnie and I can't wait for the sequel. I wish I had one for my memoir, but I just feel really stuck right now. Summer is coming and I have no plans and I can't decide on anything. I know I just have to sit in this discomfort, but it doesn't feel good. XO 🥰❤️
Men in power who feel the need to manipulate are just confession how pathetic and powerless they are. I hate to disappoint anyone, but I’ve found that younger men who just want to be with you and not control you or make a product out of you f—k and love better and more maturely than the men who likely abandoned them and their moms anyway. The only sex that would be death IMO is the sad offerings of the late Boomers and Gen Xers I’ve dated. I have yet to be impressed and a 30 YO from Italy has me dead to rights sure that ALL American men are toast by comparison. Well, perhaps it’s not ALL men. Their adult sons have clearly learned some things from some hella good foundations (likely provided by a Gen X mother whose Gen X “father” is now the older dude frustrated AF because of ED and a lack of ability to get “one sex” because he has the personality of plastic when it comes down to it. Sorry to be savage, but this just reminds me of a “type” who I have no obligation to be anything but real with. 💅
But this was an interesting piece and I was actually writing early this morning about exactly why women like me shed dead weight. Like, I lost 220 lbs of toxic heft on 5/5 last year and have had more fun, better sex, and a happier life ever since! I should tell that story. Losing excess weight is so empowering. I can see why women are dropping needless pounds and are realizing how happy they can really be.
I hear you Amy, and yet I've been so lonely lately. I know that's infinitely better than being with some jerk. This too shall pass, but when I'm in this depressed state it's hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. People don't talk about the loneliness long after their person dies. I want so badly to keep moving forward, but I am really stuck right now. Sending you a hug from NYC. 🥰❤️