The holidays are underfoot, and much like that two stud Lego you stepped in the dark when you got up to pee, you didn’t see it coming and it hurt like a motherfucker.
If I had a nickel for every sob story that started with, “I know [INSERT TRAGIC LOSS] can’t compare to losing your husband, but…,” I’d have at least tens of dollars, and that’s a fuck-load of nickels.
Does that make me a qualified grief expert?
No.
But, am I qualified to judge your loss?
Probably not.
Am I going to do it anyway?
Absolutely.
What I’m not going to do is get bogged down by details or “facts”, but let’s just say I’ve had my fair share of shitty outcomes.
So, having been asked by no one, I’ve taken it upon myself to create The Hierarchy of Grief ™1, because let’s face it, some losses really ARE worse than others.
Ranked by category from worst to less worse
Deaths
Spouse / Life Partner
Child2
Sibling / Best Friend
Parent
Aunt / Uncle
First Cousins
Grandparent
Pet — dogs and cats3
Favorite celebrity
Pet — mammal
Pet — bird
Pet — reptile
Pet — fish
Pet — amphibian
Pets — invertebrate
Breakups
Divorce (legal) – initiated by spouse
Dumped by life partner
Dumped by boyfriend / girlfriend
Divorce – initiated by you
You dumped your life partner
You dumped boyfriend / girlfriend
Friendship loss
Favorite band splits up
Losses
Health – terminal
Health – chronic
Health – curable
Home
Job
Retirement fund
Passwords
Phone
Wallet
Keys
Sentimental object
That important thing you put in a special place to keep it safe but now you can’t remember where.
I don’t really have a trademark, but you saw it here first!
Upgraded to #1 for solo parents.
Upgraded to #1 or #2 for singles and/or the childless
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